Quote from Winston on Feb 21st, 2008, 5:14pm:This is a game of words that I have seen many Christians playing. Many people don't want to perceive that their religion is in fact a religion just like any other (including the ones they disagree with and think are obviously false and silly superstitions), they have to create some special status to set it apart. This is their way of creating a superior status for their beliefs in their own mind.
However, by any conventional definition, Christianity is clearly a religion like any other. Trying to just call it something else doesn't really change that.
I always perceived Christianity as a religion
and a faith, as the words mean practically the same thing to me. But if what you say is true, then from my (mostly) detached point of view, calling Christianity a faith and
not a religion seems a little... well... demeaning to all the other religions/faiths on the planet (no offence to anyone here). If anything, the only concept that I would consider that could be called a faith and
not a religion is Atheism, because its adherents have
faith that no deity/deities exists, while their beliefs classically
defy (and therefore contradict) the very concept of religion.
Quote from Winston on Feb 21st, 2008, 5:14pm:I'm not sure what you're really looking for, Soda,
I'm not sure what I'm really looking for either, I am sorry to say.

I have been unhappy with myself, with the exception being my boyfriend (I'm very happy with him!

). I've been particularly unhappy with my own mind, body and soul, for a very long time. I know that some of my woes cannot be helped, but others can...
I suppose that my main purpose at the moment is to gain insight into, particularly, the Christian ideology and culture. I don't know if you've noticed, but since my return to CnDRR fandom mid last year, I have had multiple clashes with various members of the fandom, all of whom happen to be Christians. Indeed, people of the Christian faith make up a large percentage of the fandom. If I am to 'integrate' to any great degree, I'll need to learn to understand their way of life, their culture and their reasoning. Some degree of apathy is required. I tried to do that at the Acorn Cafe, and Gabe was very helpful in answering a lot of my questions, but my dialogue there got cut short. I introduced this topic here, as an attempt at reconciling two different schools of thought, and a means of growing a greater understanding of Christianity. I have spent a lot of time reading, but I can think of no better way to understand the
feelings of Christians than to interact and ask questions. I know that may seem a rather clinical and detached method, but I am hoping to learn many new things, and (if possible) make some friends along the way.
Quote from Winston on Feb 21st, 2008, 5:14pm:but since you seem to be interested in finding a religion,
That is also true, to a degree. I have seen religion causing a lot of problems in the world, and my brain wants me to distance myself from it, but something in my heart tells another story. I seek a greater awareness, some form of enlightenment, and a greater understanding of the world. My mind tells me that some religions cannot possibly provide me with that, but again my heart argues that other religions may.
Quote from Winston on Feb 21st, 2008, 5:14pm:it occurred to me that maybe an idea for you would be to look at Wicca or various other related neopagan beliefs. That's about as gay-friendly a family of religions as you're going to come across, I think. Admittedly, they're young systems, sometimes still in formative stages, but there are some branches that are decades old and fairly well solidified in their teachings, and it's growing rapidly because a lot of people are finding that it serves them better than the more traditional religious options for various reasons. The downside to that option, though, may be that depending in your surroundings, you might have to stay kinda quiet about it, or else endure the stigma of being perceived as a "witch" (although in fact, most wiccans and other neopagans are not in fact witches at all).
Wicca is a very fascinating religion. I have read up on it, and what you say is mostly true, although I did read an article (in the last edition of Australian Witchcraft magazine, before it went out of print) pointing out that Gardnerian Wicca teaches that heterosexual couplings are ideal and valued more than homosexual ones (to the point where many of their covens reject homosexuals). The theory behind this concept is outlined in their own statement: "Ritual is important but fellowship is more so; we practice gender magic, rather than sex magic as such; everything in Gardnerian is arranged male to female, female to male." However, conversely, Alexandrian Wicca teaches that all forms of mutual love and pleasure between adults is 'of the Goddess', so to speak, and revelling in such is like a tribute to Her. By this concept, they value homosexual couplings to be equal to heterosexual ones. Perhaps my understanding of this is somehow skewed, especially considering that I read about these over a year ago, but that is what I understand of these two particular branches of Wicca.
As you said, there is a great stigma attached to Wicca and other Neo-pagan religions. Considering what I have learnt of Christianity, many Christians may only consider a homosexual Wiccan to be proof that homosexuality is inherently evil, as witchcraft (mistakenly and erroneously synonymous with Wicca in the minds of many) and homosexuality are expressly declared sinful in the Bible. “Misery loves company”, as the old saying goes. I am not one to want to reinforce stereotypes I perceive as negative (and as such you’ll never see me in a Croc Dundee hat, nor will I say “G’day mate!”

), but conversely, I am not one to lie about (or even veil) my true feelings. If I feel or know something, and the circumstances are appropriate, I will come out and say it. And I expect the same of everyone else, of course!

But that would leave me with a rather difficult conundrum, and one not easily resolved.
I might do a little more reading into Wicca, particularly the non-denominational ‘solitary’ path of which I have heard much. Thanks for that guidance, Winston. I really appreciate it.

Although, I would be grateful of any other advice that anyone else may have.